• QUIT SCHOOL

  • And enter ... LIFE

  • TED Talk Sir Ken Robinson - Do schools kill creativity? (YT129:1)

  • Schooling the World - The White Man's Last Burden by Carol Black (MV166:1)

  • Clinton Callahan - Take Your Kids Out Of School (YT106:1)

  • Reads

    The Diamond Age or a Young Lady's Illustrated Primer

    by Neal Stephenson

    The friendly John Percival Hackworth is a nanotechnician who just finished developing a 'book', A Young Lady's Illustrated Primer, which is actually an interactive-supercomputer designed to teach a young girl to take her authority back and think for herself in a stifling society. It performs its functions perfectly. Unfortunately Hackworth loses the book, and it falls into the hands of a street urchin whose Box is expanded by the book to the point that she changes the culture of Shanghai.

     

    If you want a Young Lady's Illustrated Primer for yourself (or Young Gentleman's Illustrated Primer... for that matter...) you might find it alive and waiting for you for free online at StartOver.xyz.

  • Making An Unschooling Family Is Like Making Love

     

    Excerpted from the book Radiant Joy Brilliant Love by Clinton Callahan.

    Hold Space for the 'Center of Being' of Your Family
    It is possible (even ordinary!) to hold space for an extraordinary daily family experience. The way to hold space for extraordinary daily family experience starts with you (in particular the man) keeping the center of your family.


    Each family has a center of being, just like each person has a center of being. Keeping the center of the family is Archetypally the man’s job, but actually the woman and man work together keeping the family center. Keeping the center of your family is similar to keeping your own personal center, and involves three components:

     

    KEEPING THE CENTER OF YOUR FAMILY

    1. 1. Put your attention on the center of your family.
    2. 2. Find where the center of your family is right now. In many modern families the center of being of a family is the television, the Internet or computer games. The center of your family could also be with the children’s schooling, with in-laws, job problems, the bank account, an alcoholic father, a secretly raging mother, etc.
    3. 3. Bring the center of your family in and place the center of your family on the purpose of your family. 

    To keep the center of your family you must know the purpose of your family. What is the purpose of your family? Is the purpose of your family Ordinary Human Relationship, Extraordinary Human Relationship, or Archetypal Relationship? It is not a common practice to consciously remember and live into the purpose of your family.


    A breakthrough in family satisfaction can occur through realizing that the purpose of your family may differ from the purpose of other families. There is no 'normal' family. It is not required that your family’s style of being together imitates any previously known or recognizable family pattern. Bringing this idea to a few family discussions can suddenly free both children and adults to unleash creativity for discovering what your family could be for you. In a short while you could find yourselves thriving in a dynamic, harmonious mini-society experimenting to express individual desires and personalities.


    Without intentionally exploring the purpose of your family the purpose is controlled by whoever makes the loudest shouts. Since the way children develop responsibility is through testing parental boundaries it is often the children who shout the loudest. Or the shouting may come from the father or mother who are not aware that clarity is more powerful than making boundaries, and clarity does not require shouting. Clarity only requires statement.


    Having the center of your family located someplace other than the purpose of your family typically fills the 'relationship creation zone' that your family represents with Ordinary Human Relationship. Then the chances for Extraordinary Human or Archetypal Relationship happening in the family are lost.

     

    DEVOLVING INTO ORDINARY FAMILY RELATIONSHIPS
    Here are twenty sure-fire ways to undermine the Archetypal center of your family and thereby create Ordinary Family Relationship:

    1. Keep the television or radio on while you eat meals. This makes the television or the radio the center of your family. Make the television the center of your family life together.
    2. Bring the newspaper to the meal table, or let the children bring toys. This makes the (mostly horrifying) news or the (corporation-marketed) toys the center of your family.
    3. Do not eat meals together. This makes the Box’s stomach (in each person) more important than the family purpose.
    4. When you want something from your mate or the children, just shout for them in the house. This destroys respect and shatters spaces.
    5. Do not hold boundaries for the children. Let them scream their way out of the boundaries that you do set. This drives children crazy because then they have no boundaries on which they can structure their world and their intelligence.
    6. Serve sugar-sweetened foods at all your meals. This makes sugar the center of your family. 
    7. Do not tell the children what will happen next. Instead, shock them and order them around out of the blue to keep them subservient and to stay in control. This terrorizes the children and makes them slow to develop trust in human connections and communications. They must then stay isolated and centered on themselves for mere survival.
    8. Let the children interrupt adult conversation and adult spaces with their teasing each other, their questions, their getting hurt, anything to get your attention. This shows children that adults have weak attention and that the space is not held and they are not safe.
    9. Do not have fun as an adult. This proves to the children that adult responsibility is horrible and they should never grow up. By being bored and tire you prove that adults cannot be passionate about life and obviously do not have fun.
    10. Do not have physical or emotional intimacy with your partner in front of the children. This shows children that physical or emotional intimacies are bad, or at least not included in the image of 'the civilized adult', 'the nice man' or 'the good girl.' Children to not do what you say, they become what you are.
    11. When a child gets hurt, tell them that nothing happened. Do not listen to their feelings. This psychologically abuses the children into distrusting their own experience, and suppressing their feelings.
    12. Expect your children to take responsibilities before they are truly capable of being responsible (around sixteen years old). Expect your children to brush their teeth, go to bed, clean up their room, do their homework, etc., without you holding the space for it. This expectation destroys their innocence. When your children fail to meet your expectations this gives you reason to resent and hate your own children. Your fat little Gremlin smiles in satisfaction about destroying something so precious.
    13. Do not read, sing, dance, or play musical instruments to or with your children, or let them see you loving to do these things. This starves their spirit. 
    14. Never apologize to your children. Never admit to being wrong. This makes children think they are supposed to be serious, dead, and perfect like you.
    15. Never let your children know that they hurt you. Then they think they are powerless and do not have to learn to manage the power power of their Gremlins until it destroys their adult life.
    16. Do not teach children to be sensitive to various kinds of spaces (e.g. adult meetings, churches, ceremonies, prayer or meditation spaces). This way nothing is sacred to them because they think nothing is sacred to you.
    17. Only give your children your partial attention for a minimum amount of time. This keeps your children starving for attention so they keep coming back to you and trying to manipulate you to give them more of your attention. Then children learn that getting negative attention is better than getting no attention at all, and they wrap you around their finger with the problems they cause using their uncivilized little Gremlins.
    18. Use your financial resources to buy new appliances, cars, clothing and computers. This shows children that possessing objects is more important than being together. Worry about not having enough money to buy all the 'things' society says that you need. Then your children learn materialistic survival patterns that keep the economy rolling!
    19. Praise or blame your children for their behavior instead of appreciating them or being-with them. Then children think that praise and blame is how to manipulate the other people in their lives.
    20. Send your children to public school and expect the teachers to raise them. At school your children learn to become like their friends whose parents also sent them away. This shows children the weakness and confusion of their father and mother about creating a bonded family and a community, and takes away their hope of having authentic parents who provide support with family bonding and family love. This shows your children how to try to give away the responsibility for their own family if they ever have one.

    Something different occurs in a family only when the adults hold and navigate the center of the family into Extraordinary Human or Archetypal Relationship. The practice for navigating the center of the family into Extraordinary Human or Archetypal Relationship is to consistently ask and answer this question: “In the name of which purpose are we as a family gathered in this moment?” 


    Aim to keep the center of the family in the Adult context, the responsible context, and the extraordinary context. Make this your purpose, and make your purpose top priority, no matter what else is happening.

     

    Do not forget your priority. Strive to keep 10 percent of your attention focused on navigating the family space to consistently answer the question of purpose. Nobody can do this for you. Nobody can stop you from doing it.

  • UNSCHOOLING

    "I've spent over a quarter century now watching some magnificent human beings growing up in and out, but mostly out, of school, mostly according to a philosophy variably known as unschooling, deschooling, life learning, or self-directed learning. All of which pretty much just mean life. Without school. They have taught me a lot, been witness to and recipients of some of my greatest blunders (as my daughter said to me one day when she was about nine, I try to remind myself that you're just a young inexperienced mother), and sources of a joy more boundless than I had thought possible."

    AN UNSCHOOLING PRIMER

    Please contact Clinton Callahan or Anne-Chloe Destremau

    if you are ready to work your butt off creating an unschooling primer for next culture communities.

  • Unschooling Resources

    DVD Class Dismissed! 2015 http://classdismissedmovie.com/

    Academia Edu www.academia.edu

    Alternatives To School www.alternativestoschool.com

    Arch www.arch-ed.org

    Bambino Tours for Children http://www.bambino-tours.de/stellen.php

    Center for Planetary Culture Wiki http://planetaryculture.com/wiki/index.php?title=Consciousness#INITIATION_AND_INDOCTRINATION

    Centre for Self Managed Learning www.selfmanagedlearning.org

    Chaos Pilots (Berne, Switzerland) http://www.kaospilots.ch/kaospilots/partners.html

    Choice In Education www.choiceineducation.co.uk

    Collective Evolution http://www.collective-evolution.com/2014/01/07/this-is-what-happens-when-a-kid-leaves-traditional-education/

    Creating Learning Communities www.creatinglearningcommunities.org

    Education Otherwise www.education-otherwise.org

    Educational Heretics Press http://edheretics.gn.apc.org

    Educator Labs http://educatorlabs.org/request-a-resource/

    EdX free online education www.edx.org/how-it-works

    Flock Society (designing a free and open online commons economy) http://en.wiki.floksociety.org

    Flying University https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Flying_University

    GEN Database of Best Practices http://db.ecovillage.org/en

    Global Issues Network http://global-issues-network.org/ourstory/

    Gunnar and Family a year on Jakobsweg http://wanderleben.wordpress.com/

    Green School – Bali www.greenschool.org

    Home Education www.home-education.org.uk

    Home Education Advisory Service www.heas.org.uk

    Home Education Research www.homeeducationresearch.org

    Human Scale Education www.hse.org.uk

    Informal Education www.infed.org

    Invisible College

    Ithaca Project www.ithaca.org

    Khan Academy free online math videos www.khanacademy.org

    Laura Grace Weldon – Free Range Learning http://lauragraceweldon.com

    Liberation Unleashed: http://liberationunleashed.com/

    Linn Kristin and 144 Schools http://www.144.no/Project-144-.html

    Living School www.livingschool.org

    Magical Childhood www.magicalchildhood.com

    Movement Generation www.movementgeneration.org/resources/curriculum

    Network for the Freedom of Education – legal advocacy group

    Otherwise Club www.choiceineducation.co.uk/oc

    Outernet www.outernet.is/en/

    Outernet Whiteboard https://whiteboard.outernet.is/en/

    P2PU (Person 2 Person University) https://p2pu.org/en

    Personalized Education Now (CPE) www.gn.apc.org/c.person.ed

    Präsenz in der Schule http://praesenzinderschule.wordpress.com

    Project Gutenberg – 100,000 free books online www.gutenberg.org

    Red Gypsy Lauren with 3 daughters in Australia www.sparklingadventures.com/index.php?id=2002

    Redefine School – Philippé Greier http://redefineschool.com/philippe-greier/

    Robert Gilman – New Tools for the Journey: The Human Side of Sustainability (talk from Systems Thinking In Action STIA) http://conference.stiatemenos.com/wp-content/themes/stiapl.us/media.php?eventid=&mediasrc=https://soundcloud.com/stiatemenos/stia-now-robert-gilman-interview-part-1?auto_play=true

    Schoolhouse Home Education Association www.welcome.to/schoolhouse

    School of All Relations, Aegina Island, Greece for 18-25 year olds www.schoolofallrelations.com

    School of Everything www.schoolofeverything.com

    School of Life www.youtube.com/channel/UC7IcJI8PUf5Z3zKxnZvTBog, http://www.theschooloflife.com/london/

    Schools of Trust www.schoolsoftrust.com

    Singularity University www.singularityu.org

    Tools for Implementing Initiatives by Youth http://issuu.com/urbanrecipes

    Ubiquity University http://www.ubiquityuniversity.org/

    Wikiversity https://en.wikiversity.org/wiki/Wikiversity:Main_Page

    Wilderness Awareness wildernessawareness.org

    Wisdom University (Paul H. Ray, Sherry Ruth Anderson et. al.) www.wisdomuniversity.org/faculty.htm